Once he pops the question the next thing that pops into your mind is the wedding! Immediately your mind floods with enquiries about timelines, dates, color schemes, flowers, food, and more. Just thinking about planning a wedding is exhausting; actually planning it can be very stressful. It´s a wonderful adventure, but if you´re unprepared for all the tasks that are about to fall into your lap you may risk ruining what is supposed to be a fun and joyful experience: the engagement.
First, be sure to be on the same page with your fiancé about how long you want your engagement to be. There is no right or wrong amount of time – an engagement can last a week, a year, or even years. It really all depends on what you and your partner feel is the right amount of time to plan the wedding of your dreams. Right away you should decide whether you would like the help of a professional; if so calculate whether a wedding planner is in your budget.
Once you´ve decided on who is going to help plan your big day you should pick a date as soon as possible. Once the date is set you can begin to map out a timeline of the planning and preparation duties that need to be done. By setting goals you´ll get more done in a timelier manner and hopefully avoid feeling overwhelmed and hectic. Once your timeline is in order start setting up the proper appointments and booking major necessities such as the venue, photographer, DJ/band, and such.
Now that your foundation is set, don’t be afraid to delegate tasks to your bridal party and extra involved family members. You chose them to be such an important part of your big day for a reason, so let them help you. However, it is important that although their help and opinions are both highly valued and appreciated, after all is said and done the decision should be one hundred percent yours. Your wedding day is about you and your fiancé and everything should be a direct reflection of you two.
As you go through the process of planning your wedding, stress and anxiety are inevitable, after all this is one of the biggest days of your lives. Try not to lose sight of the whole reason behind your wedding and the man you are going to spend the rest of your life with. It is essential to not let the pressure of a wedding turn you into a bridezilla. This should be a fun and exhilarating experience for both you and him, so enjoy the journey!